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Dying Cat – Signs a Cat is Dying

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Each cat’s experience of dying is unique, it can be long and drawn out, or the cat may go into sudden decline. Your role is to provide comfort and care while your cat is in the process of dying.

Physical signs a cat is dying:

  • Decreased respiration rate
  • Decreased heart rate
  • Loss of appetite and thirst
  • Seizures
  • Incontinence
  • Odour
  • Drop in body temperature

Behavioural signs a cat is dying:

  • Hiding
  • Changes in cognitive function such as confusion
  • Social withdrawal or clinginess
  • Loss of interest in surroundings
  • Crying

Signs that a cat has died:

  • No pulse
  • No heartbeat
  • Coldness
  • Fixed eyes
  • Enlarged pupils which don’t respond to light
  • Eyelids slightly open
  • Relaxed jaw
  • Release of bladder and bowels

Related: How to determine if a cat has died

Do cats know they are dying?

Do cats know they are dying?

Desmond Morris, in his book, Cat World, states that cats don’t understand death or know they are dying. Pet owners assume cats must know they are dying because many hide in the days or hours before death. But hiding is typical behaviour in sick animals. A sick animal wants to make himself as inconspicuous as he can to avoid becoming a target to other animals which may see him as an easy target. Predatory animals pick out the young, the old and the weak. So from a self-preservation angle, it makes sense that a sick cat wants to hide.

As most of us know, when we feel sick, we feel miserable. We are weak, tired and feel unwell, the best thing to do is bunker down somewhere dark and try to rest, and cats do this also.

Why do cats go away to die?

Not all dying cats go away to die, a cat who is outside and becomes seriously ill (through trauma or disease) may not always have the strength to return home and will seek out a hiding spot such as a shed or under a house or bush.

There’s a difference between a cat slowly losing his health to progressive diseases such as kidney disease and cancer, which can take months to reach end-stage, to a sudden trauma such as being hit by a vehicle or dog attack where the cat may die at the scene or crawl away and die shortly afterward.

Physical signs

Death is a unique experience for every cat, and symptoms can vary depending on the underlying health issue. The active phase of dying can begin weeks or months before the cat dies.

No longer eating or drinking:

A very sick cat loses his appetite due to nausea, pain, diminished sense of smell and taste, lethargy or have less need for food or due to inactivity. The cat may remain thirsty, and some will even drink a little. By this time, dehydration is usually severe. The cat may hang over the water bowl but be too exhausted to drink.

Decreased urine or bowel movements:

Because the cat is barely eating and drinking, urine and bowel movements become less frequent, urine will be much darker than usual as the kidneys concentrate the urine to prevent further water loss. Towards the end, urine and fecal output may cease altogether.

Urinary and fecal incontinence:

Many gravely ill cats will urinate and defecate accidentally, and diarrhea is common at this stage.

Difficult or laboured breathing (dyspnea):

Normal respiration is 20-30 breaths per minute.

As death nears, the cat’s breathing can be rapid, slow, noisy, or even be pauses between breaths (apnea) in the dying cat. Right before death breathing can change to rasping and jerky as the respiratory system starts to shut down. The changes are triggered by a reduction in blood flow and are not painful.

Some cats will experience a death rattle, which is caused by secretions which sit in the back of the throat, and the cat can longer shift them.

Decreased heart rate:

Circulation changes cause the cat’s heartbeat becomes slower and fainter; the skin and mucus membranes can become mottled.

Coughing and swallowing:

As the body continues to wind down, various functions will also slow. The coughing and swallowing become reflexes slower.

Drop in body temperature:

The average body temperature of a cat is between 100 – 102.5°F (37.7 – 39.1°C).

As the blood circulation slows, body temperature can fluctuate. Ears and the paw pads feel cooler to the touch. Close to death, the temperature may drop below 100°C (37.7°F).


Most cats in the final hours or days of life will move about very little, if they do try to move around, they are usually fragile, particularly in the hind legs. Simple activities such as walking to the litter tray or food bowl can become physically exhausting.

Keep the cat’s food and water bowls as well as litter trays close to where he sleeps so he doesn’t have far to go.


As the organs begin to fail, toxins can build up in the cat’s body, which will cause an odour from the body as well as the breath.

Changes in appearance:

As health deteriorates, physical appearance can also change. While not necessarily a sign of imminent death, it is a clue that your cat’s health has declined. The most apparent changes are dramatic weight loss and an unkempt appearance as the cat spends less time grooming.

Do cats purr before they are about to die?

Cats can and do purr when they are in pain, so it is possible a cat could purr when they are dying.

Behavioural signs

Cat sleeping


Some cats will hide; others can become quite clingy and want to be with their human or animal companion.

Loss of interest in everything/social withdrawal:

Close to the end, most cats no longer have an interest in their surroundings and spend most of their time asleep, often restlessly. Usual behaviours such as greeting you at the door, asking you for food on a morning or watching birds in the garden have all stopped.

Many carers say that their cat became clingy in the lead up to death. It is essential to let the cat decide what they want. If they prefer to be alone, we must respect that, even if we want to offer them comfort. If they want companionship, then we must give them that.

Sleeping more:

The cat will spend his final day(s) sleeping as much as he can, even if he is awake, he will usually not move very far. Some terminal cats will be restless due to pain and discomfort.

Changes in cognitive function:

Some cats will become confused and disoriented in their final days or hours due to a build-up of toxins in the body which impair normal brain function. Seizures can also develop, particularly if the liver or kidneys are failing, other symptoms can include vocalisation, pacing, confusion.

Is my cat in pain?

Pain can be hard to gauge in cats, they are hardwired to hide pain, but subtle clues do can indicate that a cat is in pain.

Is my cat in pain?

  • Crouching
  • Lying on the side
  • Tense body
  • Crying and meowing
  • Half blink
  • Downward, flattened ears and whiskers pulled back
  • Tucked up belly
  • Panting
  • Trembling of shivering
  • House soiling

Not all life-ending diseases cause severe pain, but they can make the cat feel extremely unwell, which affects their quality of life.

Palliative care

As a cat reaches the terminal stage of a disease, you will need to give him extra love, care, and attention. Treatment depends on the condition; many cats remain somewhat independent right up until the end. Make allowances if necessary.

The goal of palliative care is to provide end of life care and comfort for the cat. Schedule an appointment with your veterinarian to discuss an end of life plan, at which time you can discuss how to manage your cat’s symptoms such as pain and hydration. Cats with advanced kidney disease are chronically dehydrated, and it can be a great help if the caregiver can administer subcutaneous fluids to help.

Pain relief:

Some end of life diseases can be painful, and your veterinarian will be able to prescribe medication to ease pain and discomfort. Cats can’t tell their caregiver they are in pain, subtle signs of pain include hiding, loss of appetite, drooling, neglecting to groom, sitting hunched over, restlessness, and loss of interest in surroundings.

Only give painkillers which have been prescribed by your veterinarian, cats aren’t small humans are unable to metabolise many common painkillers.

Make adaptations:

Place litter trays and food bowls in an easy to access area close to the cat. It is not helpful for the terminal cat to climb a flight of stairs to reach the litter tray or food bowls. Raise food and water bowls so that your cat doesn’t have to bend over. Senior cats and cats in pain can find it difficult to step into a litter tray; it can help to provide one with low sides.

Offer food by hand:

In late-stage disease, cats can lose their appetite. Try to offer small amounts of food; at this stage, hand-feeding will be necessary. BBQ chicken slightly warmed up, or some canned tuna may entice your cat to eat, but at the very end, even this will often be refused.

Maintain warmth:

Very sick cats, especially senior cats, are often not as good at maintaining body temperature. Make sure your cat has a warm and comfortable place to rest. The area should be easy to clean as very sick animals often have elimination problems.


Give your cat the option of where to sleep. The cat may prefer to sleep in the lounge room close to their human companions, or in a quiet spot elsewhere in the house. Let the cat decide, now is not the time to be fussy about where your cat sleeps.

Maintain routine:

Keep your cat’s home life as simple and familiar as possible. Avoid any major changes.

Groom and clean the cat:

It may be necessary for the caregiver to help groom and keep your cat clean, especially cats who are in pain. Clean the cat if he has soiled himself and change his bedding.

How to comfort a dying cat

Comforting a dying cat

Meet your cat’s basic needs, hydration, nutrition, pain management, warmth, and comfort. If these basic needs cannot be met, it is time to speak to your veterinarian about euthanasia. Ending a cat’s suffering is far kinder than letting nature take its course and waiting for the cat to die naturally.

Ensure the cat is in a comfortable place, and meet their emotional needs.

Some cats prefer relative isolation when they are dying, which means they choose to hide in a quiet spot. Where practical, respect that. Other cats want the comfort of their human or pet family, and that is okay too. Follow your cat’s lead.

  • A dying cat needs quiet and calm. Keep household noise to a minimum and if practical, move the cat to a quieter part of the house away from the everyday hustle and bustle such as their favourite human’s bedroom.
  • Stay with the cat as they are dying, your presence will calm them.
  • Talk quietly and calmly to the cat.
  • Dim the lights, and turn televisions or radios down.
  • If the cat has a canine or feline companion, allow them to be with the cat, if that is what the dying cat wants, unless the cat has a highly infectious disease.
  • An immobile cat can develop pressure sores, ensure they have a cozy and well-cushioned bed.
  • Keep fresh water available and close to the cat’s bed. Offer food on your finger.
  • If euthanasia has been scheduled at the veterinary surgery, bring along the cat’s favourite blankets. Where possible, book the first or last appointment when it is quieter. Stay with the cat before and during the process. Talk calmly, gently stroke him and tell him you love him.

When is the right time to have my cat euthanised?

When is the right time?

It is such a gut-wrenching decision to make. Cats can’t tell us how they are feeling; we can only go on how they look and behave. The best thing you can do for your cat as he nears death is to offer him a peaceful exit.

A common theme among the comments is guilt over waiting too long or euthanising too early. None of us has a crystal ball, and our cats can’t tell us when they’ve had enough. We have to make the best decision we can, but with the added complication of wanting to fight for our cats, clinging to hope and not wanting to let go, it becomes a very complex and difficult decision.

Dr. Mary Gardener, founder of Lap of Love – an in-home euthanasia practice – talks about the four types of budget in a recent vlog on pet euthanasia with Dr. Sue Ettinger.

  • Financial budget: End of life veterinary care can range in costs depending on the underlying disease.
  • Time budget: A terminal pet often requires intensive home-care, which can take up a considerable amount of time. If you work full-time out of the house or travel a lot, this can impact on your ability to provide optimal care.
  • Physical budget: Are you physically able to care for a terminal cat? Lifting him or her out of the litter tray if they are unable to walk, managing accidents, taking the cat for veterinary check-ups?
  • Emotional budget: Caring for a terminal cat has a huge emotional toll. For me, caring for my cat for over 6 months during her cancer treatment was emotionally hard. Some of our pets are a link or a bridge to the past. They represent our childhood, a marriage, a difficult period in our lives, a family member who is no longer with us, all of which can make it even harder to let go.

Dr. Gardener goes on to say that ‘if any of these budgets are up, she supports a pet owner’s decision to say goodbye‘.

Questions to ask:

  • Am I keeping them alive for me, or them?
  • Think of two or three things your cat enjoys (chasing flies, playing with scrunched up paper balls, lazing in the sun, jumping on the dog’s tail, greeting you at the door after work) are they still getting pleasure from them?
  • Do you want to keep the cat alive because they are still enjoying life or because you can’t bear the thought of them not being around anymore?
  • What will the cat miss if he or she is not here tomorrow?
  • Is the cat having more bad days than good?

These questions can help to give clarity during such a difficult and emotional time when we are dealing with denial, bargaining, grief, fear, and uncertainty.

Dr. Alice Villalobos, a veterinary oncologist, created a quality of life scale which can help caregivers and veterinarians determine when the cat’s quality of life is such that euthanasia must be considered.


If possible, schedule the appointment ahead of time so that the veterinarian can perform the euthanasia during a quiet time. Either at the beginning or the end of the day is best. Some veterinarians offer the option to come to your home and euthanise, which I recommend where possible.

Many veterinarians will recommend sedation before euthanasia, which helps to relax the cat, here is a compelling argument for sedation written from a veterinarian’s perspective.

When is the right time to adopt another cat after losing one?

The choice to adopt another cat after a cat has passed away is a personal one and the time frame differs from person to person and family to family. Some choose to adopt right away while others prefer to wait. You can read more about adoption after pet loss on this page.

There is a cycle of love & death that shapes the lives of those who choose to travel in the company of animals. It is a cycle unlike any other. To those who have never lived through or walked its rocky path, our willingness to give our hearts with full knowledge that they will be broken seems incomprehensible. Only we know how small a price we pay for what we receive; our grief, no matter how powerful it may be, is an insufficient measure of the joy we have been given.

~ Suzanne Clothier~

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Julia Wilson is a cat expert with over 20 years of experience writing about a wide range of cat topics, with a special interest in cat health, welfare and preventative care.Julia lives in Sydney with her family, four cats and two dogs. She enjoys photography, gardening and running in her spare time.Full author bio Contact Julia

35 thoughts on “Dying Cat – Signs a Cat is Dying”

  1. Thank you for helping me understand. my cat is 17 and has brought me much happiness, comfort, and joy. She is a rescue from Florida hurricanes in 2004. My family doesn’t understand my sadness of watching her die. I have given as much of me and nutrition as I could.

    • Hi Sarah, I’m so sorry to hear about your cat. It is clear how much you love her. The final days, weeks or months can be so painful to watch, and it makes it so isolating when those around you don’t understand. Our pets are our family too. You are lucky to have found one another.

  2. My cat just died this past Sunday 12-8-19 she had FIP and was only 18 months old. I am heartbroken over it and just wanted to know if she felt pain in her last breaths. I know she is better now in heaven but I still miss her like crazy.

    • Hi Michelle, I am so very sorry for the loss of your beloved cat. FIP is a terrible disease. I can’t say if she felt pain as each case is different. Again, I am really sorry.

  3. My cat was born in 1996. I’ve always fed her twice a day, now I feed her at least 3 or 4 times a day, and she licks it, but doesn’t actually eat much. She meowing increasingly, acts confused, and looks at the ceiling, she’ll lick her food and water, lay in her bed for awhile then repeat. She doesn’t seem to actually sleep. Her cries are getting more and more sad sounding. I guess I’m just looking for someone to tell me it’s ok to euthanize. It hurts hearing and seeing her like this

    • Hi Todd, I’m sorry about your cat, 23 is an amazing age for a cat. Cats can develop cognitive dysfunction in their old age. Have you spoken to a veterinarian? They can assess her and hopefully offer some guidance. Good luck, I know how painful it is to watch them grow old and have to consider euthanasia 🙁

  4. I lost my gorgeous 21 year old cat Alfie on the 8th of december, i’m still struggling now, can’t accept he’s gone and i won’t be seeing him again, hurts so much, not a day goes by when i think of him, can’t let go, missing him so much

    • Hi Wendy, I am so sorry for the loss of Alfie. I completely understand the hurt of losing a beloved cat. Be kind to yourself and take each day as it comes. We never forget those who have passed, but the pain does ease in time. RIP sweet boy.

  5. I am at this point where I need to make a decision. My cat has a cancerous tumor on her hip. She was diagnosed in December 2018 and at that time we were told that might be she would have couple of months. She is still alive but now she is obviously suffering. The tumor has cracked the skin, it looks painful! The cat is 19 years old. She had long and eventful life. I know that it’s the time but cannot think about loosing her! It’s especially difficult for my teenager child who was born when the cat was already a part of our family. It’s a terrible situation and I am just heartbroken 🙁

    • Hi Anastasia, I am so sorry to hear about your cat. It is a heartwrenching decision to make, but we must do what is best for them. Does she have much quality of life left?

  6. My beloved baby boy Louis, was diagnosed probably over a year ago with kidney failure.. and he was going in and out of pancreatitis, Sometime in April my vet told me it was getting worse. Started sub Q fluids and so forth, October they said stage five kidney failure. Increase the sub Q fluids, of course meds and pain meds. But that darn pancreatitis I guess because of the stress kept reoccurring quite frequently. About a month ago we found out he was anemic. Tried very hard to find something for that but all we could find was the human medication. Pancreatitis had gotten so bad because of the stress from the sub Q fluids that Monday we took him off of all sub Q fluids, now only giving him pain meds when needed and his other medication. As I sit here crying, such a brave boy. God bless him, He’s such a brave boy.. It’s so hard for me to let it go. I keep focusing on quality-of-life. But he follows me around and just meows. This decision is grueling. Still eating, drinking water, using the litter box. When will I know it’s time?

    • Your message brought tears to my eyes. It is so hard to know the right time, only you know your cat. All of my cats have eaten, drunk and used the litter tray right until the end. It’s those little things, does he still meet you at the door, try to kill flies on the window, how is he sleeping (I remember my beautiful Eliot was so restless in the last few days). I am very firm in the opinion that it is better to make this choice too early rather than too late.

  7. My cat Snow died on January 23 2020 just a few days ago. I got her almost 19 years ago. My heart is just broken. I miss her so very much. After a marriage separation she was such a comfort to me and now my sweet little girl is gone. I stayed by her side until she took her last breath. I miss her so much.it is so hard to cope with this.😢

    • Hi Rachel, I am so sorry for your loss of Snow. It is devastating to lose a beloved pet and it is natural to feel the way you do. At the moment, your emotions are so raw, but with time, the pain does subside. We never forget our pets, but over time, the pain will ease.

  8. I lost my Charlie (prince Charles) on 11/29/2019. I realized over this wknd he was just 4yrs shy of being with me for 1/2 my existence. He almost made it to 20yrs so very blessed. That’s like 90+ yr old man. He had kidney disease but was insisting on struggling with cat steps his last hr. Determined is the word that best described him. But he stopped eating/drinking night prior. I’m just relieved he went with me for Thanksgiving although I had no idea he would shut down the next day. I did as recommended.. called vet ahead to make arrangements. Hard sort of call… surreal really. Anyway, my cat was a problem cat. I don’t think anyone else would have kept him, but I loved his terrible ways. Very aggressive and mean to anyone but me. All vet visits were challenging and involved restraints. But on his final day, I hand carried him into vet.. he did not go in a carrier.. it was natural, peaceful, loving but gut wrenching for me. First time he did not want to attack a vet tech. He laid on his side while I embraced him. Forehead to forehead. I sang, gave him kisses and sang his favorite hymns. He gave me loads of head rubs as his final goodbye. Mind you, I lost my other kitty 18months prior so that loss was also with me in that moment. It was a hard but necessary process. Only thing that bugs me is I hate that he hissed when they gave him the sedative (which he probably didn’t need one as he was certainly weak). Today, My heart still breaks off and on. Quiet tears streaming right now as I write. I miss him so. And yet, I look across the room at his favorite chair looking at a new kitty who is snuggled there. Big moment for me, as I opted to adopt 2 male rescue cat brothers.. both 1 1/2 yrs old who only recently have come out of hiding. I’m not allowed to touch them yet, but this is a big moment.. to finally spend the evening near me.. but it’s not lost on me that he’s in Charlie’s chair. The cycle of pet life is very hard on us humans. Yet we open and reopen our hearts eternally to loving animals that need TLC. Xoxo to all our little pals. Those at the rainbow bridge and those still with us.

    • I’m so sorry Julie, it hurts so much when we lose them. I still think about two cats I lost when I was a child (a long time ago) and feel sad.
      I’m glad you have opened your home to two boys, it sounds like you are winning them over 🙂

  9. My first cat as an adult actually saved my life. She had been abused before I got her and I was the only one she bonded with. I was in a horribly abusive marriage and it seemed that suicide was the only way out. I had everything ready on the counter when she jumped up and I realized that if I died she would too. This made me angry and I used that anger to leave. She lived to be eighteen. When she started getting lost, losing weight and her gait was affected I knew it was time to let her go. I owed her a peaceful transition and I cried for days. Last week I had to use what I learned from her to let another one go. It still hurts but I know I’m crying for me and he is fine wherever he is. I don’t let the pain stop me from having other cats and today I introduced my great grandchildren to the cats I have now.

    • Thank you for your beautiful post, I am sorry for the loss of your cats but what a lovely story about how your cat saved your life and got you out of a terrible situation. You’re right, it is painful to lose them, but it’s also worth having them in our lives too. The pain does ease, although we never forget.

  10. Over three years ago an adult cat found refuge in our trailer outside. He ended up in our home and we nursed him to better health. He had evidently had a hard life. His ears were torn but healed and his front paw had a obvious healed injury. He was very frail. We didn’t know his age but he appeared to be a senior cat. The past six months his health declined and we had to say goodbye to him today. He was never a problem for us and got along very well with our other cats. His name was Little and I will miss him terribly.

    • I’m so sorry for your loss Colleen, thank you for sharing Little’s story. How beautiful that he found a loving home to spend in his final years. It’s hard when they’re gone, we do miss them so much.

  11. Sorry about all of your losses Just put my cat down he was 16 first time ever putting an animal down but didn’t want him to suffer to the end like my other animals who I nursed to the death mine also came from the florida hurricanes in 04 he had hyperthyroid condition that I treated the last 5 years then recently had 2 strokes a month apart he dwindled down to nothing but I did all I could to save him multiple trips to the vet and specialists and thousands of dollars if I could had saved him id had spent thousands more Hope to see him again one day

  12. Our cat, 20, is in her last days. No eating or drinking, her eyes are very sunken in and there is nothing left but the fur and bones. She was diagnosed with lymphoma several years ago and was treated with lasix and prednisone. Hubby wants her to die naturally but I am wondering if that is the right choice. She walks a few steps, late down and repeats this until she gets where she want to be. Breath is slow and shallow. How much longer can she go on like this? Will she just face away or will she have a seizure? With civic our decisions are also effected.

    • Hi Diane,
      I am so sorry to hear about your cat, it’s always a gutwrenching decision. As our pet’s carers, we have to make hard decisions at the end, but that is our responsibility. I can’t tell you or your husband what to do, personally, I would not let a cat die naturally. In human medicine, we have the benefit of drugs which can relieve pain, our cats can’t tell us how they are feeling. There comes a point where quality of life outweighs quantity. Having kept one cat alive for longer than we should, I made a promise that I would never do that again and would rather let them go a little too early than too late.

  13. weve had so many cats in our home that its not funny but nothing like this ..two years ago we had three cats .saraphinA which she was born the same time my youngest daughter which she was tenthen we had mittens she was like 5 years and lighting was also 5 yrs . so we were forced to move from our home because our landlord passed away and well its not easy to find a place in a short notice after 11 years living in the same house so we stared living in the hotels and after almost being broke we were forced to go to my moms place and she could never stand cats so it was hard we were forced to take our three pets back to the old house no one was living in the place and the people working there said it was okay so we took them opened the door to our old house and I have never felt so bad so hurt it felt like I was leaving my kids I cried with my 10 year old but what else could I do I promised my kids that I would do everything in my power to hurry and look for a place .Everyday we would go and feed them water and stuff the first day we went we called there name s and they jumped at us liked us I was crying nd I couldn’t do it every day by then it had been almost a month and I was stressed at my moms so our only enjoyin time was with our pets and everyday it was hard because they knew when it was time to go back they would follow us to the gate stick there heads out and just scream cry .I held them and we promised to find a place and they would be the first to go with us ,but things changed lighting he didn’t want nothing to do with us after that day when we would go he would come but didn’t let us pet or come near him its sad he would look at us like wharever and after one more week he would come eat after we were always leaving it was heartbreaking the way he was acting by then it had been a total of three months and finally we had found a place and were waiting for the okay that week we went back but only mittens was there as always waiting the last time I saw saraphina she was like ten feet from us saw us and gave us her back wed call her and she would be mad we told here we promise this week were coming for u guys but its like she didn’t belive us were even thinking of grabbing them and just keep them in our trucks .but we couldn’t do that it felt wrong now I wish I would have done that ..we got our apartment and same day we got the keys we went to pick up our cats but sadly only found mittens cause lightin would not let us catch him he looked so mad we tried for a whole week but nothing he ran he even saw us taking mittens but I guess he was done with us ,saraphina her was what hurt us more we never spotted her ever again .I couldn’t believe it it was painful to lose our pets ,now mitten is dyeing but we have two babys from her and I don’t know if I want more pets some people don’t understand it but pet owners do when u lose two members of the family its hard we went to bad moments loseing our home after 11 years loseing two pets and not cause they died but one of resentment towards us the other we never found out and now mittens I cant think how can a cat be so angry toward u that it rather let us leave then come home .thank u I needed to let this sadness out .. hope these two babys will continue with us for years ..

    • I’m so sorry, what a terrible situation. You did your absolute best for these cats and tried to help them. All of us here know the pain of losing a cat, it feels so raw, but the pain does fade in time, but we always remember them.

  14. I just lost my Lillie 3 weeks ago tomorrow. She was diagnosed with kidney disease last October. She was taking a medication for this and we had fluids if she needed them. It was very hard. It is hard to lose a pet, but when you have also been taking care of their medical needs it sometimes cuts a little deeper. I now have my Rocky who will be 17 this summer. He was diagnosed with bladder cancer last March 2019. The tumor was removed and he was put on medication that would slow the growth of any tumor that would try to grow back. I think it is back now, and the thought of losing another pet now seems impossible. I have talked to my vet who said he could remove the tumor again as he did well after the first surgery. Because of his age I am very apprehensive of making him go through that again. Not to mention the cost. And I hate having to look at it that way. But unfortunately it is a part of the decision, which really sucks. I pray if he is suffering that he would pass, as I am not sure I could make that decision. It is the hardest part of having a pet, is losing them. Sorry so long, just hurting. Thanks for listening.

    • I’m so sorry for the loss of Lillie and for Rocky’s diagnosis. It’s such a difficult balancing act between the quality of life and money. Not an easy decision to make, especially in a cat who is 17. You sound like a wonderful and loving cat lover. I wish you good luck with Rocky.

  15. my cat passed away earlier today found it in morning out in backyard on grass was very cold. but no signs of anything wrong with him, he was moving around just fine the day before he had dinner at 3 pm ate all of it. but we found it was little strange in night that he didnt come in to get cuddles at 8 pm but didnt really think to much about it. and more alarmed in morning when he didnt come for hes breakfast. when we found him he didnt have hes claws out, hes eyes little open, fur looked like it was licked or something. in random spots. but overall nothing looked like it was wrong. he didnt have any foam near mouth. he was little warm on side he was laying on but rest of hes body was really cold. only thing i can think of is he might be very old i i had him since 2006-2020. but he never really looked like he was old. other then he was getting skinny.

    • Oh no, I am so sorry to hear that. What a terrible shock. 14 is starting to get up there in age, so it may well have been age-related. I have a friend who had a 12-year-old dog and she was recently found deceased as well. Sometimes they go quickly without any symptoms.
      Take care and thank you for your post.

  16. Hi. My boy Tang died 2 days ago. Try to keep this short. He had no platelets at age 8- Spontaneous bleeding from eyes, mouth, butt. Got him on prednisilone and all was good til he developed phemphigus- scabs all over a few weeks ago. Vet put him on a few more meds, which may have hurt more than helped. Stopped eating, hind legs were lame. We had a big dog crate so we could get meds in him, and that’s where he was for 3 weeks. Blankets, food, water. We were with him when he died, rapid breathing, refused food by syringe. The vets had never seen a cat with the platelet issue, but they got us to 12 years. His twin is still looking for him

    • Hi Cindy, I am so sorry for your loss of Tang. What a terrible time for you. You both fought so hard for three years, which is a credit to your strength and love. Thank you for posting Tang’s story.

  17. I lost my previous boy trey yesterday it happened so fast I am still in shock and thinking he is still coming home. I keep thinking I have to feed him or give him his meds and expect him to be on the bed when I walk into the room. I had to check into either his buriel or cremation today and I couldn’t believe I was actually talking about his passing. I miss him so much and just feel an empty hole in my heart that will never heal.

    • I’m so sorry for your loss Janet. It’s always hard to lose a cat, but when it’s sudden it’s such a huge shock. You’ve had no time to prepare, and it doesn’t feel real, yet it is. It takes time, we never forget our precious pets who have left us.

  18. Just had to put Maya, my female Maine Coon darling down. 12 years old and very active until a week ago. She started losing control of her hind legs and could barely get around. She was diagnosed with Saddle Embolism. Apparently, the heart throws a clot and it lodges in the artery where it splits to the legs. Caught early, possibly a clot buster might help, but she was too far along. Used to climb a ladder on to the roof….then she had trouble even getting into her litter box. The night before, she lay on the bed, put her paw on my arm and cried… Never think they don’t talk to you. We agreed it was time. I’m so torn up…

    I rescued her….and she rescued me.

    • Hi Stephen, I’m so sorry for your loss of Maya. I know what you mean, they give us back so much more don’t they? I love that she put her paw on your arm. What a gorgeous thing to do.


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