How to Help a Scared Cat

What causes a cat to be scared?

There are many reasons why a cat may be scared, it can suddenly develop in a usually friendly and laid back cat, or it can be its nature in general.

Lack of human socialisation from kittenhood is a significant cause of fear towards humans. Individual personality (some cats are just more shy/nervous than others), environmental (a trip to the vet, a stranger in the house, being given a bath), past traumatic experience (being abused by a human, chased/attacked by a dog) or a sick and injured cat.

When a cat is scared, for whatever reason that may be, he is more likely to lash out in fear. Which means you need to be careful. A frightened cat is capable of inflicting a great deal of damage.

What does a scared cat look like?

Scared cat

Being able to read a cat’s body language is important to determine his current mood. A scared cat may exhibit the following signs.

  • Dilated (large) pupils
  • Wide-eyed
  • Crouched down low
  • Ears flat
  • Hissing
  • Growling
  • Raised hackles
  • Hiding

There are different levels of scared. A cornered feral cat or an injured cat will be terrified. Other situations may be less severe, such as your cat just being a little scared of newcomers to the house. You have to assess each situation and cat on a case by case basis.

It is generally accepted that feral cats who have had no human contact after the age of seven weeks cannot be tamed. I am sure this isn’t always the case, but by this stage in their development, they have developed a fear of humans.

Is the stress temporary?

Temporary stress is easier to work with, for example, your cat is scared of going to the vet so you can work towards alleviating  this stress by doing the following:

1) Find a veterinarian who does house calls (although this is only going to work for minor ailments, routine vaccinations etc.). Your cat will still need to go to the surgery for more serious conditions or medical tests.

2) Slowly get the cat used to the veterinarian, this can include a light sedative before a visit (if he’s really scared). Pam Johnson-Bennet suggests taking your cat to the veterinarian to say “hello” (I’m paraphrasing here). Instead of only ever showing up at the vet for medical examinations or treatments, put your cat in a carrier, drive him to the vet and pop in and say hello, without actually having your cat examined.

Is stress due to sickness or injury?

A sick or injured cat may feel stressed, especially if he is in pain. The need for medical treatment is a necessary outcome, but you must be careful with a stressed and injured cat. Even one who usually is calm and compliant can lash out under these circumstances.

If possible, cover your arms and legs with long pants and a long-sleeved top, wear gloves and if possible glasses or sunglasses. Approach the cat calmly, crouch down to his and talk soothingly to him.

Give him a calming scratch behind the ears (if possible).

If he is acting aggressive, place a towel over him and wait a minute or two to calm him down. Once he is calm, slide the towel under the rest of his body and carefully place him in a cat carrier.

If he is not acting aggressive, just scared, pick him up and place him in a cat carrier.

What to do if your cat is scared of you:

We can work with them to bring them out of their shell, but I have found that it’s not always going to be possible to turn a shy cat into a friendly and outgoing cat. I have had two cats like this. One was scared and vicious; the other was timid. We worked hard to build trust and confidence in both cats, and to a degree, it helped, but they remained quite shy and frightened all their lives.

Food and play therapy can go a long way in building the trust of a scared or timid cat as you begin to associate yourself with “fun and pleasant” things. If you have a shy cat, try to lure him out with small cat treats. Don’t ever force the issue, sit close by and offer a treat, as he comes closer to you, give him more, until he is close enough to touch gently and stroke.

Another/similar method to the above is to coax him out with a cat toy (generally a wand-type toy is best for this), get him closer and closer to you. Hopefully, he will be distracted by the toy and forget his fear.

Scared of strangers

I think to a degree, we should accept our cats for who they are, and that may include a fear of strangers. It is not ideal if your cat is afraid of the veterinarian as he will need to see the vet now and then for check-ups, vaccinations, and medical treatment.

However, if in the home, they are not keen on visitors you have two options. Build up the trust of your cat by having your visitors play with, or give your cat treats, or accept that he’s shy and leave him to it.

I think it is essential to provide your cat with a haven where they know they can retreat without people bothering them. That may be a dark corner in the wardrobe and or a cat tree where they can observe the world from a safe height.

Frightened new cat

If you have just adopted a kitten or cat, it can take him a little time to adjust to his new surroundings. Kittens may be missing their mum and littermates which is perfectly normal and usually, settles within a few days. Help the process along by offering him a safe and secure place to sleep with a warm hot water bottle. Place a ticking clock close by which can remind him of his mother’s heartbeat.

Adult cats can take a little longer to settle into a new home, so give it time. Again, I recommend you use play and food therapy to win his trust and confidence.

Change in behaviour

If you have an otherwise friendly cat who suddenly becomes scared it is time to take him to the veterinarian for a check-up as it can be a sign of an underlying medical condition.

How to help a scared cat

Bach’s Rescue Remedy is a flower essence that can help calm a scared or anxious cat. Add four drops to your cat’s food or water.

Play and food therapy can help to build up trust and confidence.

Give your cat a safe place to hide or retreat; this can be a corner in the wardrobe, a cat carrier and or a cat tree.

If the above methods don’t help, speak to your veterinarian about drug therapy.

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  • Julia Wilson, 'Cat World' Founder

    Julia Wilson is the founder of Cat-World, and has researched and written over 1,000 articles about cats. She is a cat expert with over 20 years of experience writing about a wide range of cat topics, with a special interest in cat health, welfare and preventative care. Julia lives in Sydney with her family, four cats and two dogs. Full author bio

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